Grief is like a storm: turbulent and scary, but also nourishing and cleansing, making room for new, beautiful things to grow. And like a storm, grieving has stages. There may be more (5? 8?), but I’ve basically only found three: prepare, surrender, and rest.
If you were once able bodied, and are now disabled due to persistent pain, you may feel that you’ve lost a lot. And like losing someone you love, losing abilities you love, like running, walking, or cooking, involves grieving.